Happiness is imagination

It is our need to be happy, to have a healthy life but more than that it is the necessity to remain at peace with everything. Physical laws never lie and hence taking an analogy from zeroth law of thermodynamics,which states that when two bodies are in equilibrium with a third body then all are in thermal equilibrium. If our body is at peace with our soul, then anything which comes to either body or soul would be at peace. It

Unfortunately zeroth law talks only about the final state of equilibrium. The eternal peaceful state. But it doesn't talk about the path taken to achieve that. To our rescue comes in the First law of thermodynamics, which talks about the balance of energy. It broadly says to give something, a part of it would be consumed and the rest given out. The law balances out everything. Again if I try to make an analogy, in order to be at peace with anything, which is the ultimate thing, I have to take in something, give out something and can consume. 

Psychology says that, a person who smiles a lot or laughs a lot, is unhappy deep inside or sad. So the person is giving out happiness by consuming the pain, when the input was the experiences of life. Another example is of the Taj mahal, everyone appreciates its beauty, architecture, but no one talks about the amputated 22000 approx workers who were amputated by the emperor. In another example, of marriage, when the couple are unhappy but cant separate due to social causes, they pose their happy face all around but they are unhappy within themselves. In an another example, when we say Gandhi was responsible for non violence, he was the winner, yes he was, but at the cost of many many lives. This list of examples are umpteen. In all the examples, it can clearly be understood what the inputs, outputs and consumed are. 

Now it doesn't stop here, there is another law, the second law of thermodynamics, which comprises of two statements, and each of the statement starts with , '' it is impossible to ...'' . Briefly speaking about the first statement, it says, '' it is impossible to work with a single reservoir''. hence lays the importance of having a source and sink. From the above examples it is evident that, when there is no source there cant be a sink. The second statement of the law states that, '' it is impossible to extract energy from low temperature to high temperature without doing any work''. If a person thinks that he/she is at peace, then little work by an external agent enough to disrupt the happiness. But those who are really at peace, it is very very difficult and hell a lot of energy is required to perturb them and they cannot go havoc by themselves. 

The bottom line is that, to remain at peace and to enter the real temple of peace we have to walk on the rubble of pain or suffering of self or of anyone. So my query is how can such a person be at peace? Because those things will follow us at some or the other point in our life and we cant discard them. Our memories and thoughts wont let that happen.

Also, state of happiness is never an absolute entity. It doesn't exist by itself. So this means, we really can never be happy . Happiness is just an illusion.

Happiness is not an ideal of reason, but of imagination .... # Immanuel Kant.  

Practical relation

I thought of this when my friend asked me that why some relations have a honeymoon stage and they forget the reality, how can we more practical? 

We humans never live our life as we want, we always live in the perceptions or stories which others narrate us about life. Our first school which is home teaches us many things when we have not yet experienced them. And we form a story in our mind. Few stick to it, and few explore their own story. The ones who explore their own story are cautious about their life but others sooner or later realize the reality. They realize it because it is not what they wanted. Their out social behaviour is not directly proportional to their inner psychological behaviour. For such people who strike a unison between the two are the ones who explore life themselves are the only successful ones. 

In most of the cases of relationships, the relationship only starts with external beauty or money or anything else. And this is imbibed in our minds from the society. When I say society, it includes home too. During an arranged marriage, a average or below average looking girl has to work her ass off to look pleasing and beautiful to the groom.We learn this from home. The movies which have largest amount of influence on us, show the guy falling in love with a girl at first sight without even knowing anything about each other. And the guy is so lucky that, he always gets a beauty with the brain. Irony is in reality that is not what happens. 

If society teaches us that, then that is what we do. Earlier people used to take time and talk and then they used to fall in love, hence forth their relations used to be stronger. Now a days, charade the partner with flowery talks, rosy gifts and good looks and you are the winner. With time, this has to fade, and when it does, things go venomous. Few are wise enough to thing through this problem and go for a logical conclusion either to seperate or stay together. Such people who stay together make the strongest bond. When they think, they actually see their innerself from the exterior and know what to do. They then try to strike a balance between their external social behaviour to their inner psychological behaviour. It is when they explore themselves.

I think, the only way anyone can avoid such agitations to the mind is by thinking and knowing oneself. By being truthful to the partner and developing trust.We should be able to express in a subtle way whatever wrongdoing we do to the partner. This doesn't come easily. But by doing so we would surely develop a trust. The most important thing is we are in now way over shadowed by infatuation or in flimsy grounds. Such open behaviour would surely start from our first school, when we are allowed to express our mind and are well supported or guided in our thought processes. The mentoring part need not be in relations but can be in anything. It is  the practice in petty things which would help us take good decisions for big things.