Unpredictability of Mind

I admire science, the way it has evolved and made our lives bit easier. For example, few Indians alleged ISRO for spending huge amounts in their research work. As a counter statement to that the chairman said, it was because of this research work, ‘’cyclone Philian’’ was predicted accurately which in turn saved many lives and lot of wealth. This is just an example.There are many such examples to add to the list. So science surely has taken a giant leap in predicting the uncertain and the unpredictable nature up to an extent. But still nature has lot of uncertainty imbibed in it which we humans cant predict with ease.

A tree of same species never grows in the same shape or size, the fruits of course are of different shape. Even though the climatic conditions are predictable upto an extent but not to the fullest. Behaviour of animals too is unpredictable.  Life and death, these processes have value because of soul in organisms. Even these processes are highly unpredictable. So is it wrong for a person to be unpredictable? Is there any scale which can measure their predictability?

I think every person has some unpredictability within themselves. Few flauntingly reveal it whereas others conceal it for themselves. Life is well experienced when you have a bumpy ride, which keeps you awake. On a straight road, you have the tendency to sleep and meet an accident. A monotonous life teaches nothing. Any person will know his life and so his vacillations and hence should mend them for himself not for others. Why fear unpredictability when the whole world is devoid of that? 

Sometimes we decide something to do but unfortunately it doesnt work out and we happen to plan something else. Upon doing so, some other things pops up and hence disrupting the whole initial plan. What do we do at that state? We either re plan our things or stick to the old one. What do we do when this cycle occurs quiet often? We enter a state of confusion, helplessness and the near and dear ones term as a unpredictable person. But who knows what goes in our mind? It is foolish to expect someone to understand and more idiotic on our part to make a complete fool of ourself by telling our problems to others 

To suggest or not

 Have you ever tried suggesting something to anyone? If they are your close aids, then you would have surely done it  accepting their nagging behaviour and trying to soothe them in the best possible way you can. And surely with time, their nagging would be on the steeper accent rather to the opposite side. One day, there will come a time, when you reach your limit and to vent your anger, you would say something harsh or rude to this already hurt once.

The music starts now. For all the positive talks you had been making are all dusted aside and the fight is now with you for being rude for once. Then you are just the part of the crescendo. Finally the relation reaches a fracture point of hatred. Where one party points to the rude statement and webs the story around it, and the humble person talks about their arrogance and rude behaviour.

I guess it is the normal human behaviour to see  negativity in a positive thing. We need not have special skills for that, we are born with them. Tell them hundred comforting things, they will all be thrashed for the one rude comment you make. I agree that the person is hurt but they should understand that, ''everything has a limit - iron ore cannot be educated to gold'' as Mark Twain said.


It happens that in everyone's life ups and downs are there, but what good is it, if a close friend of yours when comes to soothe you is gifted with anger, mockery and hated in return. We all at some point do, such a think. But lets bring our intellect and think before we hurt our loved one who is taking the burden of being our mother and strengthening our relation with them for ever. 

Rejections

I think, one of the most influential feeling is the ‘’feeling of rejection’’. Rejections in love, marriage, career, education etc. It can happen anywhere and anytime.Name anything and you cannot separate the tendency to be rejected from it. Sometimes rejection comes handy by making us stronger in the fight and at the end we have greater probability of getting the best. We learn many things from them. A great person once said, ‘’it is the loss of something which teaches us’’. So when we are rejected, we lose something, which makes us more aware of the reality and the digression from reality to illusion shrinks. But everyone doesn’t see the hope in such rejections. I think this is the sole reason why people commit suicides. 

Anyone who has been facing rejections continuously for sometime becomes cranky. Has severe mood swings, jumps from one decision to other, doesn’t have his mind at bay and ultimately becomes more and more worrisome. I would not blame the victim but the people around them, who, instead of giving a helping hand, think them as a person with lot of mood swings and no stability in thought. If the rejections are new to us, we might take it positively but when this becomes the routine, we cannot take life easily. Hopefully if people around us are supportive, emotionally, this problem can be faced easily. It becomes worse when the victim goes into a shell when finds none near him as a support. Isn’t it a bad idea to see our loved one, going into a shell and living their inhibitions and rigidity?

Times do change. The law of nature is balance. Rejection faced in life has to be compensated with some acceptance or vice versa. Hopefully we become more supportive to our loved ones who are in this path of resurrection and make our bonding with them much stronger.  

Forced solitude

The thought of being alone or in solitude is itself very dangerous. No one wants to be alone and live a life of solitude. Our life is not designed for that. I think a good life is to meet people, laugh a lot , make good friends and try out many new things which were always strange and awe for us. Since centuries many people have talked about life. Well I think that every person has the right to talk about their life and their stories should not be ridiculed. It is their experience and a unique one. 

Like everyone I too have a life and being a fun loving person makes me attached to people very easily. I like company of people. I like to talk a lot about anything, from sex to salvation. It teaches me many things. The more I interact with people, the more I learn about philosophical ideas, ( everyone is a philosopher ) , their psychology, ethics, morals and the list goes on. This is the best ground level experience which anyone can experience.But there is a problem.

Myself being an extrovert, I have many problems dealing with people. Extroverts tend to talk a lot, they share almost everything. If they are in some problems, they always put their thought fluctuations, thoughts etc. But the listener tends to think of the speaker as a person with mood swings, no rigidity on thought. I have faced this whenever I have interacted with few people. They just tend to listen and speak nothing. Either they dont like my company or I dont make sense. 

This hurts a lot as you cant speak always. Being an extrovert, I like to converse and a conversation is when both of them speak. It is the difference in opinion which teaches a person, as said by a great person. But when people mistake you, the best thing I feel to do is to go into a shell. Live a life of solitude not by interest but I am not left with any option either. I would like to lead a life of forced solitude. I would like to do things which I had never done before. Who knows, may be I will fall in love with myself. 

Bird of hope

Immediate thought and the immediately scribbled words.

The sun never forgets to rise,
So you never neglect to smile,
No trait can compete this prize,
Making easy your rough mile.
You should be like a bird of hope,
with wonderful feathers,
sitting on a branch of a tree,
singing the songs of life.
When a dream breaks,
when the life is upside down,
It learns the lessons with a song.
The song is eternally sung,
And one day comes the wind,
with its loud song, keeping you quiet,
making you listen to its song,
You then listen with your smile.
Will go the wind one day and you,
will be back to your songs of life!!